Friday, May 15, 2015

Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In, part 2

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I was saddened to hear of the recent sudden death of Sheryl Sandberg's husband Dave Goldberg, 47. Now that I've read Sandberg's book, I feel like I almost know her, and I mourn for her loss.

One of the truest sayings in history has got to be "We make plans, God laughs." Sandberg spent a lot of her book focusing on how important the support of husbands is in enabling women to forge ahead with their careers, and her husband was a prime example of that healthy support. She talked quite a bit about how Goldberg helped her out by taking on a hefty chunk of family duties.

Now, she will have to rechart her path as a widowed mother of two young children. She has enough resources to buy all the help that she needs, but she will still need more than that. She will probably find that she has to be personally more involved in her children's lives, because there will now be no one else to share the role of parent.

As such, in some ways Lean In is already becoming outdated in light of these tragic events in Sandberg's life. Perhaps another book will one day contain more mature reflections based on the difficult years that are to come.

In the meantime, here is the second (and final) part of my book review of Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg (Knopf, 2013). The first part of my book review is here.

Sunday, May 3, 2015

So long Michael Coren, newest member of the thought police

So Michael Coren has become Anglican. Not surprising at this point, considering his about-face in 2014 on the issue of homosexual relationships, but still a sad and disappointing twist in the life story of a man whose words and books inspired many Catholics in Canada and elsewhere.

In particular, one revelation rather stunned me: that he has been quietly attending the Anglican church for about a year.

What this really means to me is that Michael Coren knowingly misled his Catholic audience. He continued functioning publicly as a Catholic apologist, writing articles for Catholic publications and circulating on the Catholic speaking circuit, without disclosing this very pertinent bit of information that would surely have given many of his Catholic promoters serious pause. Did Coren see no conflict between his public role as an outspoken Catholic and his Sunday attendance at another church?

Saturday, April 25, 2015

Critique transgenderism? Not allowed in Ontario

A great article in The Public Discourse: "The Absurdity of Transgenderism: A Stern but Necessary Critique" by Carlos D. Flores. This article makes many good points. Among these:
A petition is floating around the internet to ban so-called “transgender conversion therapy,” a procedure that involves, presumably, an attempt by a professional to help a person who is experiencing a gender identity disorder (also known as gender dysphoria). If the progress of the homosexual movement is a guide to what will come next, we can expect that laws will soon be passed criminalizing individuals’ receiving therapy to help them do away with transgender identities or desires—even for those who want to relieve themselves of such identities and desires.
Wouldn'tcha know it, this is exactly where we are in Ontario. A bill is being passed at this very moment making this very therapy illegal. I really don't know what Catholic organizations such as Courage will do with that one, since they are basically being squeezed out of their own teachings.

In fact, many things are becoming illegal in Ontario, including freedom of speech. Reading this article, I was struck by the fact that this very piece would likely face some kind of human rights legal challenge today in Ontario. It would take a lot of courage - and perhaps some foolishness - to publish it here in Canada.

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Towards a new strategy for prolifers

Prolife media has been abuzz with the story of a pro-abortion blogger who posted a piece in which she openly admits that abortion kills a baby, but provocatively asks: "so bloody what?" The blogger is unfazed, and she still supports abortion.

Prolifers can find this perspective so horrific that it literally shocks them into silence. We are used to debating whether or not the baby is a living human person. We see that most pro-abortionists continue to deny that the fetus is a baby at all, and we tend to believe that pro-abortionists are sincere in their claim of ignorance. After all, it's unthinkable that civilized people would actually be okay with killing an innocent baby.

But what this blogger said should not be news. Rather, it should be a wake-up call. Prolifers need to switch tracks, and stop wasting so much of their time on trying to prove the humanity of the fetus. That avenue of debate is really just a red herring, and that is why proving our case will get us exactly nowhere.

Sunday, April 19, 2015

Why same-sex parenting is unjust, and heterosexuals are wrong too

I just discovered Katy Faust, who blogs at asktheBigot and wrote this amazing article for Public Discourse. Katy was raised in a lesbian household, so she speaks from first-hand experience when she discusses how the children of same-sex families often suffer from a lot of loss and grief, stemming from the absence of one of their biological parents.

She has some really great quotes in her article, among them:
Same-sex parenting is not unique in the alternative family landscape. What is unique is encouraging an alternative parenting structure guaranteed to deny a child’s right to a biological parent. In no other situation does society promote such a loss.
It's striking that in Canada there is no longer any debate at all on this topic. The opposition has been silenced, and gay parenting has been thoroughly normalized. We never hear about the "other parent". No one talks about the biological father or mother who is missing from the family of each and every child that is raised in a gay household. All we ever hear is the mantra that "some children have two mothers or two fathers", as if children were born into same-sex households naturally, as if both of their same-sex social parents were their actual biological parents.

Monday, April 13, 2015

Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In: A Book Review

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I just finished reading Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg (Knopf, 2013). This post is the first part of my two-part book review.

I surprised myself by actually reading this book. I've criticized Sandberg's pushy feminism in previous articles, and I wasn't planning on wasting my time. But when I walked past it in the library, it stared me down: an express 7-day loan, a quick read! So I gave in on a whim.

And you know what? Shockingly, I found myself kind of liking Sheryl Sandberg. She is not a horrible dragon. She is not Hillary Clinton. She doesn't seem to have an ulterior motive or a hidden agenda of leftism. She is an ambitious and intelligent business woman, and she worked hard to succeed in the corporate world. Now she wants to inspire other women to do the same.

Moreover, I was able to make more sense of this book, and to place it into a greater context, having first read read Overwhelmedby Brigid Schulte. This preparation helped me to understand one thing right off the bat: Sandberg is a success in the "ideal worker" culture.

Saturday, April 4, 2015

Long Good Friday for Angela Kennedy and Canadian Christians

The crowd shouting "Give us Barabbas".
Image via wikimedia.
A version of this post appears on

Yesterday was Good Friday, and tomorrow is Easter. But the Good Friday darkness that has descended upon Christianity in Ontario and across Canada shows no signs of abating.

The latest evidence: this week's fiasco concerning Toronto Catholic District School Board (TCDSB) Trustee Angela Kennedy. Kennedy is a Registered Nurse and has been a Catholic school trustee for 14 years. Recently she was nominated to the Toronto Board of Health. This is a big deal as the Board only has 13 members, and makes some very important decisions about Toronto's public health policies.

Kennedy had been nominated by the Civic Appointments Committee (CAC) on March 26, after TCDSB Chair Mike Del Grande wrote a letter to the CAC, daring to protest the fact that the only seat on the Board of Health which is reserved for a school board representative has been filled with a public school trustee for 13 years straight. Del Grande had said: “this ongoing lack of representation on the Board of Health is an enormous disservice to this large constituency.” He also said of Kennedy: "I would ask that you support her nomination without prejudice."

Monday, March 30, 2015

URGENT: March 31 deadline to let Canadian Libraries know what you think

Sorry not to know about this sooner, but as it turns out, the Canadian Library Association's Intellectual Freedom Advisory Committee has been conducting a survey on customer satisfaction. They are asking customers for feedback on any "challenges to library materials and intellectual freedom-related policies" in "publicly funded Canadian libraries (e.g, public, school, academic, and government)" in 2014.

The deadline is March 31st: tomorrow! So this is truly a last call chance to participate.

Please speak up about how completely unacceptable it is that many public libraries and school libraries across Canada have no filters to block pornography. In fact, many don't block even child pornography!

Remember what I was told by Coun. Tim Tierney, the Chairman of the Board of the Ottawa Public Library: "OPL uses more filters than most libraries in Canada ...(e.g. child pornography for which we filter – other libraries do not)."

To let the Canadian Library Association know what you think, please go here:

Saturday, March 28, 2015

Answering the Libertarian Librarian, Part 2

This is a continuation of my post Answering the Libertarian Librarian, in which I address the arguments against filtering pornography in school libraries, as raised by the staff at Dr Frank J. Hayden Secondary School in Halton, Ontario.

1. Filters show distrust in young people

In my previous post, I answered their argument that filters would undermine the trust relationship that teachers and staff have with students.

2. Filters would block out LGBT content, and other useful content

Halton's teachers next pointed out that filters would create an unacceptable risk of blocking out LGBT content. They wrote:
We value and are committed to the principles of equity in our schools. It has been demonstrated in the past that when filters for sexual content have been placed in schools some of the first sites to be blocked are public health sites that are accessed with information for and about our LGBT population. What happens when there is a disagreement over a particular site being filtered?

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Answering the Libertarian Librarian

The liberal elites of Western society seem to be retiring freedom of religion and freedom of conscience into the dustbins of history. Here in Canada, we just recently witnessed Ontario doctors being told that they must refer even for treatments like abortion which violate their most deeply held values, and law graduates who object to same-sex marriage have been refused professional accreditation in three provinces, including Canada's largest.

So here is a surprise. North American associations of librarians have bucked the "progressive" trend of reducing freedoms. Instead, legions of librarian leaders across the continent have staunchly embraced a free-for-all libertarianism. Result: many public libraries, even school libraries, now allow Internet access to everything under the sun, including pornography and often child pornography.

It's nice that librarians are perhaps the last standing bureaucrats who will protect my freedom to think outside the liberal agenda. But it would be great if my freedom didn't come at the cost of permitting obscenity in formerly safe zones for children and families. 

Sunday, March 22, 2015

Saying goodbye to homeschooling

Tomorrow will be a big day for us. After two years of homeschooling, my oldest daughter Hannah will be going to school. Okay, kindergarten. For half a day. But still, this is a big change for us. If all goes well, in September she will be going to Grade 1.

The obvious question: why? When I first started homeschooling two years ago, my husband and I told each other that we would take it "year by year and child by child", but we were both hoping to homeschool all our kids until high school.

It's not really the academics - at five years old, Hannah is reading chapter books and is doing well in every subject.

It's mainly the social aspect. I have heard it said that Ottawa has a large homeschooling community, but frankly, I have been feeling very isolated as a Catholic homeschooler in this city.

Friday, March 20, 2015

Overwhelmed, Part IV: Leisure time is medicine for the soul

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This is the fourth and last part of my book review of Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time by Brigid Schulte (HarperCollins Publishers Ltd, 2014). (Also check out Part IPart II and Part III of my review).

Schulte starts the fourth part of Overwhelmed in Denmark, which ranks first in the UN's World Happiness Report.  Schulte has come to see how the Danes do it. She spends time with various Danish families, trying to learn why Danish mothers get so much free time:
"Danish mothers have the most leisure time of mothers in any much as an hour more leisure a day than mothers in the United States, Australia and France, and an hour and a half more than Italian mothers." (216)
One reason why Danish mothers have more free time is because Danish fathers appear to be far more willing than most men around the world to split housework and child care equally with their wives. Other reasons include the very generous government benefits and policies to support families, such as a long maternity leave and more public holidays.

But among all the various reasons why Danish mothers have so much free time, perhaps the most insightful is this statement made by a Danish husband and wife: "Americans seem to value achievement above all, and Danes make it a priority to live a good life."

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Overwhelmed, Part III: We expect too much of modern mothers

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This is the third part of my book review of Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time by Brigid Schulte (HarperCollins Publishers Ltd, 2014). (Also check out Part I and Part II).

Here, I discuss Part Three: Love, where Schulte examines our societal beliefs about motherhood and fatherhood, discusses the new "cult of intensive motherhood," and thinks about how we can change our culture for the better.

Schulte starts out by discussing how married women still do most of the unpaid work inside the home. "[T]ime studies have found that married women in the United States still do about 70 to 80 percent of the housework, though most of them work for pay, and that once a woman has children, her share of housework increases three times as much as her husband's." (156)

This turned out to be true in Schulte's own life. Both her and her husband had demanding careers as journalists, and both tended to stay late at the office. But at home, Schulte's husband would smoke a cigar and relax, while Schulte would scramble to get things done, taking care of the house, setting up birthday parties, preparing meals, and so on. Their "unintended slide into traditional roles" had happened especially after their children were born, and Schulte felt stuck in a situation that was draining her of all her energy and sanity.

Sunday, March 15, 2015

Dissecting Ottawa Library's official letter re pornography on library computers

Last response from Ottawa City Councillor Tim Tierney,
Chair of the Board of the Ottawa Public Library,
sent to me on March 12 in reply to my follow-up letter.

by Vladimir Sevcik 

(Guest Post)


This is a perfect example of a disingenuous, evasive and dismissive answer - Coun. Tierney hides behind phrases with which he wants to assure you how well they mean it (“ ensure a safe and welcoming place”), but almost simultaneously, he actually assures you that the library will be a welcoming place especially for perverts.

Then, instead of addressing the issue, he talks about things that they supposedly can’t change (customers personal devices and technical problems). In the next sentence he proves that he doesn’t really take all this seriously anyway, by trying to educate you with the phrase “may be CONSIDERED offensive by SOME”, and, in case you need some more educating, he also adds that your complaint is groundless because “the term objectionable is itself subjective” and “what is considered objectionable to you is not to me” - he doesn’t say the second part, but he means exactly that. Terrorist for some, freedom fighter for others. In this case: pervert for some, free-speech fighter for others. Filth for some is information for others.

Coun. Tierney is also evading the essence of your complaint and placing it into a different light - for instance, by talking about “sexual content” (which could mean morally neutral education about anatomy, etc.), while you are talking about a specific case of sexual content - pornography.

Friday, March 13, 2015

Planning for a petition against pornography in public libraries

Yesteday, I received an email response from Coun. Tim Tierney to my follow-up letter of March 10. Here is the text of his reply, which appears to have been written by him (there is no "sent on behalf of" in this email).
CC: Timothy Tierney, Danielle McDonald (CEO)
Ms. Singh,
Thank you for your follow-up questions on this matter. The Ottawa Public Library strives to strives to provide a safe and welcoming space for all our customers while balancing individual needs and rights. As previously stated, we have one of the strongest filtering systems in place for public libraries regarding our Public Internet Computers and our wifi network. However, with more and more customers using their own mobile devices, the ability to control the content within the library space, and prevent with 100% certainty content that may be considered offensive by some, becomes increasingly challenging.
The request for a technical solution to address your concern (that is, filtering all content) is difficult to achieve. Firstly, filtering is a reactive process in its very nature in that the site must exist and be found before it can be blocked. Secondly, filters are not perfect and often tend to over-filter, often blocking credible sites. Thirdly, the term objectionable is itself subjective and does not necessarily apply simply to sexual content; what is considered objectionable to one person is not to another.
Ultimately to ensure that our library space is a safe and welcoming place for all we need to rely on a number of elements such as tools, policies and practices.
With respect to the results of our investigation, I regret that I cannot share those details with you. We do not comment publicly on internal, employee matters.

Sounds like the library administration is digging in their heels at this point. Coun. Tierney is now explicit about rebutting my request of filtering pornography. Moreover, he informs me that I will never find out the results of their internal investigation of the incident at the Ruth E. Dickinson library branch.

This letter feels like the end of the road for my letter exchange on this topic with the Board of the OPL. Obviously, one person will not move that mountain, and I didn't really expect to, though I'm glad they are forced to think about this issue again as they carry out their investigation.

The next step

The time is now here to seek other avenues of redress. And what springs to mind is legislation.

Yesterday, after reading about Bill 128, 2008, I contacted Gerry Martiniuk, the former (Conservative) MPP who introduced this Private Members' Bill at Queen's Park. He wrote back to me today, and among other things, I found out that this Bill was born from the efforts of one person in Martiniuk's riding, who observed someone viewing pornography at a public library in Cambridge, and who then started a petition and collected signatures. I find this very encouraging!

Mr. Martiniuk pointed me to the Ontario Legislature's public petitions webpage, which details the format that a petition must comply with in order to be valid. 

Next step: I need to contact my (Conservative) MPP, Lisa MacLeod, and see whether she would be willing to introduce a Private Members' Bill on this topic if I collected enough signatures. 


Below are all my posts on this topic. The most recent are listed first:

Thursday, March 12, 2015

Lessons learned, and gearing up to fight pornography in libraries

Wonderful Andrea Mrozek informed us that CFRA played a short quote from me on their morning news at around 7:50 am yesterday. I didn't hear it or know about it, as it was a clip from a pre-recorded interview. I'm so happy to hear that they mentioned this story!

Until last week, I would have bet $1000 that our local "very child friendly" public library used a filter to block out pornography from their computers. Now I know better. A whole new and disturbing world has been opened up to me. I have learned that my safe little bubble was only in my head - it hasn't actually existed for decades.

Today, many libraries across Canada and the United States have no pornography filters at all, not even for illegal graphic images of the sexual exploitation, rape and abuse of children.

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

The Ottawa Public Library responds to my letter

Yesterday morning, the Board of the Ottawa Public Library responded to my complaint. I am very happy that they responded quickly and that they are taking my complaint seriously. Below is the full text of their letter, followed by my response. Notice that the current chair of the library board is Ottawa Coun. Timothy Tierney:
Sent on behalf of Ottawa Public Library Board Chair, Tim Tierney
CC: Timothy Tierney, Jan Harder, Danielle McDonald (CEO)
Ms. Singh,
On behalf of the Ottawa Public Library Board, please accept our apologies for your recent experience at the Ruth E. Dickinson branch of the Ottawa Public Library, and thank you for bringing it to our attention. We assure you that we support a safe and welcoming public library environment. We care about our customers and we have in place a number of policies that ensure that the library is a safe place for anyone to visit, including children and families.